The Bible says... Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain. But a virtuous 👩 woman who can find.
*When what you carry is scarce... you become sought after.. people and men would do all it can to have you to themselves*
Don't sell yourself cheap... some people say if I don't compromise or do what he wants me to do... He would not take me seriously.
Please DONT sell your birthright for a morsel of flesh... keep yourself and your dignity.
If any way is interested in you. He would honor God and respect your decision.
Being preferred means you are DIFFERENT in the way you walk, talk, act, and live your life.
Anyone indeed can be beautiful...with a little touch-up...but the true beauty of a woman 👩 emanates from inside....what's the content of your character?
*Your character is your unique selling point.* It is what makes you preferred amongst many.
Character is what sustains a 💑 marriage...yes outward appearance is important, but you can not neglect the essentials needed to have a happy home.
The character must be cultivated. Great characters begin with cultivating the right habits. The right habits birth the right character and eventually become your way of life...
You must take out time to reflect 😔... is there a character trait in me that doesn't align with God's word.
Are there 🤔 things that people have pointed out to me... perhaps your parents, ur boss or friends....hmm even the Holy Spirit.
It could be as minute as anger.....🙏Do you get angry
easily? Do you forgive easily? Can you take corrections without explanation or
arguing? Are you a woman of your words? Can you easily say. *"I'M SORRY*
Talkativeness... A woman naturally talks more than a man... The Bible says of a virtuous woman_ her mouth is full of wisdom.. she tames herself to speak only when necessary...
How much have you grown in your love 🚶♂️ walk with God and those around you.
Do you exude the character of God, gentleness, meekness, peace, joy, humility...
What do people say about you, and what memory or legacy do you leave people with...???
There are many things to reflect on: The fruit of the Spirit
is your character manual... the proverbs
31 woman is your role model...
Ask the Holy Spirit to show you where you've fallen short and to give you the grace to walk 🚶♀️ ✨️ ♥️ in the light of His word.
Don't make excuses for the way you behave or act. Let God
groom you into the virtuous 👩 woman that He wants you to be.
We are all works in progress... the more yielded you are to God, the better the finished product 🙏. The character cannot be over-emphasized. How you treat the people around you is important. Especially the friends we have as guys. Sometimes we talk down on them...disrespect them. How you treat them...is a reflection of how well you treat your husband 🤣. Don't take things for granted. There are husbands that still talk about their friends that they never married. Because those friends respected them...treated them like kings or made them feel good. We would be rounding up soon. It's easier to speak than type...🙏🥰But I hope we've learned one or two things. This is the foundation4. *HABITS*
A man's or woman's life is a product of what he or she does daily.
In order to prepare for a successful 💑 marriage, you must start now to develop the right habits.
Waking ⏰️ up early
- Preparing the night before
( Create a TO DO list)
Plan your day and manage your time properly
_ Be more open to friendship ( Have the right kind of
friends- that way you can learn what guys generally want n how they think )
- Build interrelationship and communication skills (
listening before talking 👄 👌 and waiting for the person to
finish without interrupting)
Take care of yourself physically, look good, dress well, and be confident 😉
of who you are. When you walk 🚶♀️ and 👄 talk...Let people
admire your level of completeness and carriage *very important*
_ Learn how to cook....🍜🍝🥘🫕🥗🍔🌮🧆different delicacies.... Remember you have a king 🤴 to serve and a kingdom to preserve.... Not ndomie every day or carbohydrate every day... learn about the various food groups n how to combine them to make a balanced diet🥑🍈🍑🍋🍇🍇🍌🍌🍋_ learn how to serve your king 🤴 even before you enter the Palace ( serving technique, table manners n many other things _ there is an abundance of information on youtube, join any of the cooking blogs or channels and practice 😀) Every skill learnt was taught. ...
- Be domestically inclined. Start now to take care of your little corner... your room, 🚻 toilet, kitchen....your clothes, your wardrobe... all of these are part of your preparation. Learn organization.. keep your environment and personal items clean.
Sometimes we look great on the outside..but if people are to come into our rooms...things are upside down... God would help us in Jesus' name, amen.
Marriage 💑 is a reflection of your singlehood. If you got it ✅️ right in singlehood, taking care of the home 🏡 would not be a burden to you.
God bless us all in Jesus' name, 🙏 amen.🥰🥰🥰If
we are to take a peek at our rooms....🚻 Toilets.....Hmm... you don't
take care of yourself...A woman is expected to have her bath at least twice a day,If ur struggling with all of
these, You must know your hair type, skin type and what suits your skin,Some of
us...I believe we are all ladies here, We repeat our undies, sometimes soak them for long,Haha...
Are you really ready for 💑 marriage,
To be the preferred one...Let's go to cooking, Ndomie is our trademark, You can't cook different delicacies...have u read proverbs 31 women. She wakes up early to feed her household n her servants, She is skillful ...This is the time to learn various skills, As little as how to sew a button, Men respect you when you have it all together, You can take care of the finance's, the home n even their friends. They want to present you to their world. What more can you offer that is different from others to make you more preferred and more honorable.
The Bible says... she excelleth them ALL. God wants us to
walk in these dimensions.As we prepare.
*ALWAYS REMEMBER THIS YOU DO NOT PREPARE IN MARRIAGE, YOU PREPARE FOR MARRIAGE* *AND MARRIAGE DOES NOT MAKE YOU A WIFE, YOU MUST PREPARE TO BE ONE*
The 3 dimensions that you must be prepared to attain, Which is what it takes to be a *WIFE, a MOTHER, and a PRIEST 🔥*
1. WIFE
W-WISE ( full of wisdom to handle situations and contributes
to the growth of her husband's business and ministry)
I- INDUSTRIOUS ( financially independent. She is a hard and
smart worker - NO LAZINESS -
F- FAITHFULL ( A
woman of one husband) and FERVENT in Spirit. ( fervent in her walk with God and
in serving God)
E-EXCELLENCE, ELEGANT (Seeks to become the best in what she does and carries herself with dignity)
2. MOTHER
M- Maker ( 1.Home maker_ builds her home with the wisdom
gleaned from the word of God_ He takes care of her home and makes it enviable.
2 . King maker: She knows how to *make* her man feel like a 🤴King,
that he is)
O- One of a kind ( she has a heart ❤️ of gold - loves her
family and people around her..she gives her time, resources, and energy to serve God, her
family 👪 and others around her)
T- Teacher ( A woman of knowledge_ She teaches her children the word of God,
scriptures, and science_ she is diverse in learning)
H - Healer ( She is a mother not just to her children... but
a mother of nations - she brings healing,
warmth, peace, joy, and wealth of wisdom to those around her. )
E- Exceptional ( she is willing to go the extra mile to take
care of her family _ she is sacrificial and considerate, and puts others FIRST)
R- Role model ( she lives an exemplary life.. that's worth emulating, at home, in church, her work place n when no one is watching her. She honors her covenant with God)
Finally a
3. PRIEST
P- Prayer warrior ( covers her family in the place of
prayer. She prays for her husband n
decrees what she desires rather than complaining - build your alter of prayer..
your home is your first assignment. )
R - Righteous ( Honours God by living right at all times)
I- Insightful ( A 👩 woman of the word, receives
insight n instruction as a priest of her home )
E- Exudes God's nature ( a carrier of God's presence and
beauty ✨️)
S_ Submitted to God ( she understands that her submission to
her husband is a reflection of her submission to God)
T- Tender ( A contrite, tender Spirit is of great prize to God)... God can easily speak to her as the priest of her home because God can trust her to OBEY Him ALWAYS.
I pray that God would prepare us to embrace these 3
dimensions in Jesus' name, amen.We are
all work in progress.Take time to look within.
How virtuous are you?
Broken?
Yielded?
Given to correction?
Willing to sacrifice for others.
The level of the fruit of the Spirit you exude in times of
pressure n trials.
How you relate with others....
Your single life is an extention of your married life...
Trust me...you won't necessarilyextension feel the transition.
Marriage only makes you better..n sometimes reveals more of you. If you haven't built fortitude, patience, consistency, forgiveness.
That would not be our portion in Jesus' name amen, We shall be
rounding up now, Please drop your questions, Lastly...
MY STORY
Most of my preparation was While I was in school..That's the best time to engage yourself cause stepping out to the world, especially working 8 to 5 can take most of your time. Learn what you can at the right thing I did was enrolled in a culinary n baking school...so after lectures, would go for a 1hour training....that helped me..And I learned a couple of things..
You must also understand how women and especially you, in
particular, are wired. In preparing for 💑 marriage.
You must learn about the female reproductive system... What does it mean to have a regular or irregular period? How do you know your fertile window? And your sage period ( I would recommend anyone preparing for 💑 marriage to read *EVERY WOMAN*. It delves into various aspects, including sexuality.
Lastly, SEXUAL PURITY is very important 👌, pleasing God begins with making the right
decisions, setting the right boundaries,
and making a covenant with God in your relationship 🙏.
I did the same...in my relationship with my husband. It didn't mean that temptations didn't arise, but when your focus is pleasing God... He would always make a way of escape.
Don't let anyone deceive you. If they love ❤️ you and they are God's choice for you... They would respect you and honour God in that relationship.
In conclusion, the bible says you have been bought with a price _ that makes you really special to God. Therefore, glorify God with your body and your Spirit.
When you keep your covenant with God. He 🎖 honors you in His time with the best in the Kingdom.
My prayer is that God would prepare us adequately, and that every power from the pit of hell that has caused delays in marriages 💑 today is 💔 broken in Jesus' name. Amen, amen n amen.
We shall hear the good news of more weddings n 🍾marriages in shambles would be restored in Jesus' name, amen n amen.🙏
God bless you all for having me.🥰
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