WHAT IS THE WILL OF GOD IN MARRIAGE?
Well as Christians, we differ in our views when it comes to the will of God in selecting a spouse.
Many Christians Sisters believe that God has selected only one specific Man for each of us and it’s up to each of us to find that person.🤓
Other Christian Sisters also believe that the key to finding God’s will and marital happiness is finding the “right one.” But how do we know that person is the “right one” to marry?🤔
This is a question every single lady ask at a point in their lifetime.
By the time this session ends, the Lord will give us answer to this question in Jesus name. Amen
Before we proceed , let's hear / read this story
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Story 1:
A pastor who was attracted to one of his church members but was hesitant to tell her how he feels for fear that the girl might not reciprocate his feelings.
So he came up with a plan to tell the girl how the Holy Spirit revealed to him that she’s the one chosen by God to be his wife.
The next church service day, He told the girl that it is God’s will for her to become his wife.
Gues what her response was?
The girl was shocked upon hearing what the pastor had to say but she managed to politely say:
“ Pastor, that’s impossible! It’s impossible because I’m already married to someone else.”
Interesting right?
I believe you are asking yourself this question now,
So what is the will of God in marriage Madam Queen?
Grab your bible Open to Genesis 1: 31
And God saw every thing that he had made, and, behold, it was very good . And the evening and the morning were the sixth day.
We read in Genesis 1:31 how God called everything He created “good.”
Open to Genesis 2: 18
Genesis 2:18 (KJV)
And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone ; I will make him an help meet for him. But seeing the man without a suitable mate, God said it is not good for him to be alone (Genesis 2:18) so he let the man fall into a deep sleep and created woman out of the man’s ribs (Genesis 2:21-22).
From this account of Adam and Eve, we can establish that it is God’s will for a man to have a partner and helpmate/helpmeet
The will of God in marriage has never changed, it’s still the same today and remains to be the same until He comes to rule and reign on the earth.
However, choosing whom you’ll marry is one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make because it will extensively affect the rest of your life.
It’s only natural to want reassurance that you’re doing the right thing, given its magnitude.
But how do you know God’s will for a marriage partner?🤷🏻♀️
Does God tell us who we’re supposed to marry?🤷🏻♀️
To answer these questions, let us go to what the word of God says, because the word of God is the will of God.
Before we go to the bible. I'd like to say that finding the right kind of spouse is God’s will for every believer.
Although the Bible does not teach anywhere that believers need to find a specific person whom the Lord has chosen or tell us directly who we should marry, it does give us clear guidelines on finding the right kind of husband.
When seeking a partner in marriage, it is essential for you as a Christian lady to seek the mind and will of God, for there can be no better counsel than what is found in the word of God.
📌 A Christian must marry a Christian.
Single Ladies mostly ask, how do I know the will of God in marriage.?
Open to 2 Corinthians 6:14-15 , it gives a clear instruction from the apostle Paul that Christians are not to be bound together with non-Christians. When we enter into a covenant relationship with God, we are declared righteous in Christ and are brought into the light of God’s truth.
So we should not have intimate fellowship with those who are still in spiritual darkness.
A believer should marry a believer so that they can continually encourage each other in the Lord.
It is never the will of God for Christians to be marrying non-Christians.
In the Old Testament, interracial marriages were not acceptable.
In Genesis 24, the longest chapter in the book of Genesis,(read later) contains one of the greatest love stories known to man, that of Isaac and Rebekah.
When Abraham was very old, he made his senior servant swear by the Lord not to take a wife for his son Isaac from the Canaanites, but to go to his very own family to get a wife for him (Genesis 24:1-4).
Abraham understood very well the negative implication of having an unbelieving wife and mother. So Abraham insisted that Isaac marries a woman who is a believer.
Also remember how Aaron and Miriam talked against their brother Moses because of his Cushite wife (Numbers 12:1) and Esau grieving his parents Isaac and Rebekah for marrying two Canaanite women (Genesis 26:34-35).
So when it was time for Jacob to marry, Rebekah insisted that Jacob go back to her own people to find a wife (Genesis 27:46).
Isaac agreed with Rebekah and sent Jacob away charging him not to take a wife from the daughters of Canaan (Genesis 28:1).
Usually in most churches, unconditional love is eagerly promised at weddings but rarely practiced in real life.
As a result, romantic hopes are often replaced with disappointment in the home.
But it doesn’t have to stay that way.❌
The Israelites were commanded not to engage in interracial marriages, not because of skin color or ethnicity but because they would be led astray from God and will turn to idol worship (Deuteronomy 7:3-4).
Just as the people of God, the Israelites, were commanded not to marry idolaters, Christians are commanded not to marry non-Christians (unbelievers).
Before you fall in deep love with that Man, remember marriage, is a bond for life.
📌 A Christian must marry a Christian who has a godly character.
Find someone who is a person of character (Psalm 119:1) because men and women of character are trustworthy in all they do and they are sure to keep their words no matter what the cost.
Also, look for someone who faithfully obeys God in everything and is growing every day in his faith in Jesus.
📌 Don’t worry about finding the right person, become the right person yourself.
In finding the right kind of husband , the Christian lady must first begin with her own faith in and relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ.
Instead of asking, “Is he the right one for me?” a Christian lady must focus on being the right person.
You’ve got to be the kind of person that you exactly want for the person you want to marry.
In other words, if you want a kind, loving and godly person to marry then you’ve got to become a kind, loving and godly person.
I believe you are asking what does it mean to be godly?
Well...To be godly is to have a daily quiet time when you pray, read the Bible, meditate on it and apply it in your life(Joshua 1:8).
Attend church regularly, get involved in the ministry and just focus on God and His kingdom as you grow in your spiritual walk with the Lord.
📌 Marry someone who loves God more than he loves you.
The first and greatest commandment to love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind and with all your strength (Mark 12:30).
You must observe how is your partner’s love for God because in time the way he loves and serves God will be reflected in the way he loves and serves you.
The only way he can love you is if he loves God above anything or anybody else.
📌 Marry someone you can pray with.
Every Christian needs a prayer partner, one who will lift you up and encourage you when you’re down and in times of trials and difficulties.( This is reality of life)
The Bible encourages believers to have someone to agree with you in prayer (Matthew 18:19) and the best prayer partner would be your spouse because more than anybody else, he knows what you’re going through.
It is also a proven fact that couples who pray together stay together because prayer builds deep intimacy into a marriage.
: No one will ever fit into the “perfect partner” category but finding someone who has the personal qualities that can develop and sustain a lifetime relationship in the Lord could be a sign that you are in the will of God in finding a mate.
And as you follow the Lord’s guidelines, you need to trust the Lord for the blessings.( A godly husband is a blessing)
The Lord gives every believer the free choice to marry or not to marry. God has given marriage to be a free choice for every believer. Proverbs 18:22 says that finding a wife is finding what is good and receives favor from the Lord.
So if you choose to get married, that is good.
"A godly husband is a blessing" indeed
Dear single lady,
God wants to bless your union but it has to be acceptable to God, to begin with.
And remember, you should marry that person because you love him with all your heart, not only because you think it is good for you.
You should marry because you are ready to enter into a lifetime commitment with that person.
Wanting to get married is normal and a natural desire , falling inlove is normal and natural 😘but you need to pray about it and then leave it in God’s hands.
You need to trust God with all your heart (Proverbs 3:5-6), especially when it concerns the person whom you will be spending the rest of your life with.
Don't be deceived by a pastor ,friend, family, colleague, etc to accept a man as a husband
Only God is the only perfect matchmaker
Now let's move into practicality of reality of God's will in Marriage
My 35th birthday was 16.04.22
My traditional marriage was 23.04.22
My church wedding was 30.04.22
What do u notice?
To have a testimony was my anchor and prayer request to God always .
And I waited till after age 35 before God came through.
So you see.....
Someone is wondering in her heart right now .
Didn't you get suitors ?
I had proposals rich men in Deeperlife and outside deeperlife, some of the offers came with cars and houses
There was this man who wanted to marry me because of my slim smallish body, helo!!!!!!🤓🤓🤓🤓
God bless you for having me. I am humbled .
Sorry for spending more than 1 hr 30mins
AUDIO WOULD BE POSTED SOON.
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